As his fortieth birthday approaches, James Dublin Sparrow can remember almost none of his childhood. It bothers him that his brother and sisters seem to know more of his life than he does. He has only glimpses.
He remembers a moment. It might be his fifth birthday, maybe a few days after. His mother has dropped him off at the day care (one she later assures him he demanded he attend). He passes his accustomed class because he has been told that five-year-olds attend kindergarten. He thinks he learned this from a girl a few months older than he is; she is in the kindergarten class. As he enters the classroom, the kindergarten teacher’s confusion is quickly replaced with amusement as she hears his purpose. Her mockery is softened in the way adults do when the object is a child, but it is there, and for the first time in his memory, he feels the sting of humiliation.
That same year, a man is on television, walking in a foreign place, planting a flag. He remembers pride and joy he doesn’t fully understand. His memory puts him in a kindergarten classroom, but he is sure it is false. Perhaps he is remembering the moment when the men who went to the moon are safely retrieved from the ocean.
An accident mars his childhood and draws a line between glimpses he recalls with crystal clarity and those that exist in isolated packets of unfocused color. He is sure he remembers the accident. Even removed by thirty-five years and more than a thousand miles, he clearly sees himself pressing the button at the crossing. He is six, and he and Tom Revere have been walking home from kindergarten together for almost a month (although in his memory it feels like years). He can feel himself step off the curb, hear Tom’s worried caution of the approaching car, then nothing. He thinks he may have called for his mother and expressed bitter disappointment when his father answered. He isn’t sure.
The woman driving the car that hit him claims that he and she had undergone a period of false starts and stops, an odd dance that led unavoidably to the accident, and that she only tapped him, really. But then, he wonders, how did he end up across the road? How were his shoes left behind exactly where he had been standing when he was struck?
However it happened, it happened. He miraculously arose from a traumatic delirium only an hour later, and although he is told that his injuries number only a bump on his head and a bruise on his back, he can feels that something is no longer entirely right. There is a jarring crack in his memory, a badly-jointed seam between his childhood and his youth, a chasm between himself and the happier times he is assured existed.
He doesn’t
remember the great-grandmother in
Tom and James are friends through kindergarten and the first grade. Once, Tom’s parents invite James along with their family to one of those live shows that are meant to appeal to children, Disney on Ice, perhaps, or the circus. Tom’s sister, Karen, is with them. For James, Karen is the center of the world. She is a year older than the boys and has eyes only for James’s older brother Roger, but James only minds that when Rog is around, and he feels that slow sinking feeling in the pit of his stomach. The rest of the time he feels only joy at her presence and giddiness at her touch. It is an adult conceit to think that children can’t feel the sort of love that creates families, that lifelong commitment or lifelong regret are licenses of the mature heart. James never truly forgets Karen, even though he is sure she never knows his feelings for her. All his life, James is plagued by a tendency to love easily and deeply.
On this day, at the show, Karen has been suppressing the symptoms of the case of the mumps that has been developing in her young body. She has obsessed about this show for weeks. During intermission, the illness, the hot dog, and the noisy and noisome press of the crowd combine their forces against her, and, as the lights rise on the second act, she suddenly vomits allover the man seated in the next row down. Or maybe it’s James who becomes ill that day. He has always ignored his body’s signals and warnings until it is too late, especially when they conflict with his desires.
For his seventh birthday, James’s parents allow him to hold a skating party for his friends from school. He spends hours laboring over invitations. This is his responsibility, his mother tells him. She has copied the main list of invitations from the student list his teacher provided for room mothers, and she corrects his handwriting and the spelling of names. In the end, he is sure, she simply completes the invitations herself.
The remains of youthful beauty and hope haunt her face, though her eyes are hunted, and her delicate frame is hidden beneath drooping layers of depression and defeat. He thinks she still may be beautiful at the time of the party, but the faces we knew are always shadowed by the ones we know, and his memory reflects an old woman, tired from an unjust existence and too many disappointments.
James is her last child. Complications of his birth resulted in a hysterectomy to save his mother’s life. By the time he was born she had been pregnant more or less constantly for seven years. Now, she is a mother with a rapidly emptying nest, and no hope of new nestlings to fill the void of what she has been for over a decade. Her children’s school responsibilities and developing life have forced her to become a supporting player on her own stage. Growth can be like death, sometimes, when it sneaks past us and leaves us bewildered in its wake.
She doesn’t think of James as her favorite. She impresses on his siblings the importance of caring for their younger brother; he is not sickly, but he is small, even for his age, and he is allowed—forced even—to be younger than he is. She cheats herself in games and allows him to win when she can; she has done this for all of her children, but they competed with each other. James has no younger sibling rising to challenge him, and he has two years of easy wins in rigged games.
The party
is a mixed blessing. James is happy to
see his friends enjoying themselves, happy to receive their gifts, but he is
sad, because he knows that he will soon leave all of his friends behind. He is sure that he doesn’t really know this,
but, in his memory, he knows that, at the end of the school year, his family
will sell their house and move to
James’s father is a short man, but by no means a small man. At five feet, six inches, he weighs nearly two hundred pounds, almost all of it muscle. His body and arms are disproportionately long in relation to his legs, giving him the appearance, to a casual observer, of a silver back gorilla. His body is covered in coarse, dark hair, reinforcing the observation.
He is the second son of a railway man. There is physical power in his family line that he doesn’t see reflected in his youngest son. His father was once trapped between railway cars, almost smashed like a bug, and rose for work the next morning. The skinny thing his wife gave him before becoming barren would have snapped like a twig. His mother gave his father four sons and a daughter in five years, all of them strong and obedient.
The physical abuse, at least James’s knowledge of it, won’t begin for a few years, but already the cruel streak is there. James’s father has the ability to summon a lifetime, a family history, of rage and focus it into a single hard glare of burning hatred. “Sparrow Eyes” the family calls it, because it is an inherited talent. It is a look that can end fights without a blow being passed. It conveys the bearer’s utter disdain for the life of the target. It communicates to the target that causing his slow, painful death would be no inconvenience to the bearer. It communicates pure loathing and inescapable death. James’s father, who has taught his children that there are dire consequences for direct disobedience enjoys turning this look on his youngest son. He tells the boy, ”look at me,” then strikes him with the glare of Sparrow Eyes, holding his son’s gaze and assuring him wordlessly how inconsequential the young child’s death would be to him. He maintains this mental brutality for as long as it takes. He knows the outcome. Eventually, James will drop his gaze, tears of fear and shame clouding his face.
Warner
Robbins is a large base, one of the largest SAC bases in the country. The city of
In
James learns he can lie. His family tells him that he was lying before this, that he had once convinced a teacher of a “fact” that he had made up entirely on the spot, but this lie is different. This lie is pointless. James will remember it for as long as he lives, and this lie, along with one other, will be the lies he turns to when he needs to remind himself how stupid and wrong lying is.
It happens
the second year that they are in
There is another boy excused. His father is Puerto Rican, and Spanish is spoken in his home as often as English. James’s knowledge of actual Spanish is entirely gleaned from Speedy Gonzales cartoons. It takes less than a day of listening to him spewing out disconnected Spanish words and exclamations intermingled with latin-sounding gibberish syllables before the other boy confronts James and tells him to stay away. James doesn’t realize until much later how offended the other boy must have been, how much he had derided the boy’s heritage and family.
No one else learns of the lie, however, and it becomes the cornerstone piece in James’s personal collection of shame, in quiet moments he will take it out and stare deep into this lie and others, and moments of foolishness, and moments of just plain wrongness. Every detail of these moments is cut in the finest crystal, preserved for all eternity in the private globe of James’s memory. His own little Fabergé egg of guilt.
Another piece is carved in the egg, this one less precise, less deeply studied than the First Lie, but it is no less painful for James to mull over. Third grade boys are obsessed with bodily functions. So obsessed, in fact, that they make loud noises and verbal abuses of any function they come across. None of the boys use the stalls in the bathroom during the group break after lunch, to do so—even to urinate—would be to invite the full weight of the other boys’ derision. Boys would run coughing and gagging from the rest room, choked out by odors that may not even exist.
This is anathema to James. In his mother’s house, bodily functions are taboo. It is appalling to James to have these functions broadcast. One day, James realizes that he needs to use a stall after lunch. He decides he can hold it, for a little while.
Somehow, he forgets. His body doesn’t. His mother isn’t home, so his father has to leave work to deliver him home.
It isn’t the only time that year that his forgetfulness causes an accident. There is a playground across the street from the Sparrow house in Warner Robbins. One day, when James’s grandmother on his mother’s side is visiting, James waits too long. He tries to make it the short distance across the street to his bathroom, but his bladder has other ideas. As punishment for this crime, his grandmother forces him to disrobe to the urine-soaked underwear, and to spend the next hour (? two?) inside, forbidden to change, forbidden to cover himself. “If you’re going to act like a baby,” she tells him, “I’m going to treat you like one.”
James’s father has a mistress in
Janie Carpenter is a nice enough woman. She works as Major Sparrow’s secretary at the base. Her husband is a sergeant in the Air Force, and a member of the base’s security police detail. They have two children together, both girls, each about the ages of James and his brother. And she’s fucking James’s father.
James doesn’t remember this last detail, not in any real sense. He remembers that she’s his father’s mistress, but in his memory, that word has no more freighting than it would have to say she is his father’s oncologist. Less, really—third-grade James knows what an oncologist is, and cancer is a death sentence in 1972.
One night, while the children are outside during a party, James and the older daughter kiss and promise to marry each other when they grow up. The younger daughter runs in and tells their parents. James’s father is livid; James never understands why.
The following summer, they are
transferred again, this time to
In any case, the assignment is a
plum, and a harbinger of good things ahead for his father’s career. Since making the decision to become career
Air Force, James’s father has been looking to rise as far as he can, and foreign service is one of the surest steps in becoming a
general officer. James’s father served
multiple tours in the
History has not been kind to
Muhammad Reza Shah Pahlevi is the last Shah. His reign has been riddled with insurrection and rebellion, including one that forced him to flee the country. On his return, he embarked on social and political reforms designed to ease suffering in his country and bring his nation technologically and philosophically into the twentieth century. He has met resistance. His policy of purchasing land for redistribution to the poor (and his donations of royal lands to that pool), and his social reforms—many of them violations of the Shiite interpretation of the Q’uran—have provided his enemies with money and more than a little popular support. He has created a secret police force called Savak to ferret out the rebels, and their actions undermine his attempts at democratizing and opening the country. In five years, Shiite extremists, with traditional landowner support, will overwhelm his government and force him to flee again, and for the last time.
The recent American interesting
James won’t know any of this until
much later. For now,
The proud people of
Just before they leave, James
contracts a flu.
He tells his parents he doesn’t feel well, but they don’t believe
him. Or maybe they do, but there is
nothing they can do about it. His father
is angry at him and treats him with less kindness than he would a disobedient
airman. On the way, they stop in
He remembers one other moment from the stopover. He is tired and cranky. He can’t remember whether this is because he has been aboard a cook’s list of airliners all day, or whether it was the forced-march of Roman sites the family endured on their only full day in town. He is still sick, he remembers that, and even if he didn’t what happened next would remind him. His father has decided that the family needs to have dinner at one of the sidewalk cafes in town (this must be the first night because James clearly remembers the old hotel with its bidets and Crapper-patent water closets). James argues that he doesn’t feel well—he thinks he does—but he is over-ridden; no other person’s need is worthy of consideration if it conflicts with his father’s desire. They sit outside in the mellowing summer heat of the city as the restaurant’s owner putters in and out. At a point between courses, James mouth fills with what he has just swallowed. He forces it back. It happens again and again he forces it back, catching his father’s rising anger as he does. The third time, his whole stomach drives upward with overwhelming force.
The restaurant owner is
appalled. He can’t believe that his food
has caused such a thing (it hasn’t), and he showers the parents with apologies
as he leads James’s mother to the bathroom in the back so she can clean the
child and ensure he won’t be spewing forth any more spaghetti. The rest is a jumble. His father gets lost on their way to the
airport to leave, there is something about a stopover in
All new Americans are boarded in the palatial Sheraton Inn on the outskirts of Teheran. They stay for nearly a month, while James’s father works and looks for a house they can afford on his allowance; this takes time as the presumption of wealth encourages prospective landlords to charge Americans higher rents than they would their countrymen. James and his siblings occupy their time in the hotel room learning card games from their mother (she always loses—by design). Sometimes they swim in the hyper-chlorinated pool; the chlorine and the unaccustomed intensity of the desert sun combine to overwhelm the children’s skin, and they must apply lotion, something James has never needed to do, nor will ever need do after—his skin is thick and olive and sunburns generally fade into rich, golden tans.
One day, Roger, who has shown some remarkable skill as a diver, missteps while attempting a gainer; he clips his back on the hard diving board on his way to the water and hits hard. He stays under water for more than a few minutes (it will always seem like hours to James, but biology has taught him it couldn’t have been more than two or three minutes); he later says it was intentional, that he was embarrassed by the misstep and the water felt good on his raspberried back. Their mother is dubious, and believes that he may have been unconscious, but allows that he seems unharmed beyond the marks of the board on his back.
The hotel has a casino on one of the upper floors. Children are strictly refused admission, but there are jackpot machines on the terrace overlooking the pool, and nobody watches them. Sometimes, when they can, Rog and James steal five rial pieces from their mother and play the machine. They never win, and James can’t now imagine what they would have done if they had.
The Gulf District, on
James doesn’t remember how the confrontation begins. He remembers that the boys he faces are much larger and older than he. He vaguely remembers a threat of some kind against him. He remembers panicking and invoking his older brother, Roger, as some sort of superhero that would defend him against these enemies. Miraculously, Roger appears; he is significantly smaller than the other boys (he’s not quite two years older than James), but, when they set on him without warning, he makes a good showing, while James runs off to find help.
The house in Teheran would be
beyond the Sparrows’ means were it in the
Each morning, the school bus from
the
Betty Donner presides over a family much like the Sparrow family in appearance. Her husband, Bob, is a lieutenant colonel in the Army, and her three children, Bob, Jr., Jennifer, and Sarah are near the same age as James and Roger. Bob, Jr. is a year older than Rog, and the girls are James’s age and a year younger, respectively. The two families, partially due to proximity, and partially due (James believes) to intentional cultivation by the Donners, quickly become quite close. There is something odd about the Donners that, even now, James can’t put his finger on. The kids all know things. Things children probably shouldn’t. Often ditched by the older boys, James finds himself in the girls’ company, and their games lead inevitably to kissing, and not innocent, childhood kissing, either. James learns to kiss a girl properly; Jennifer and Sarah teach him to use a kiss to entice and tease, to raise feelings he’d never known before. It never goes past the kiss, and, to be honest, James isn’t sure at the time what there could possibly be (he and Rog watch a rape film that Bob, Jr. has stolen from his father’s stash of pornography, but the film is jittery and out of focus, and James is never quite sure who’s doing what to whom).
The bus ride to the elementary school complex of TAS is a long one. The growing American presence in Teheran necessitated the school’s acquisition of a separate elementary school, and the trustees found an old sanitarium on the outskirts of the city that suited their purposes. The middle and high schools still occupied the old buildings, formerly a Catholic mission school until the foreign service bought it and changed its mission to include the education of all American children.
The children amuse themselves in different ways on the bus ride. One day, they are comparing the scars of youth and other oddities of their bodies. James shows off the flexibility of his fingers. While not truly double-jointed, he has very flexible joints in his hands, and can touch each finger and thumb to his arm if he does so carefully. Another boy, a fifth-grader that James barely knows, is unimpressed by the slow stretching; he grabs James’s middle finger and wrenches it backward swiftly. James is sure he heard (felt?) a crack, but his father tells him his finger is just stoved, and his mother reminds him that he has a history of faking illness and injury for attention. A month later, maybe more, James slips on some ice and lands badly on his injured hand. His parents again doubt that he has broken anything, but his continued whining (as his father puts it) forces them to take him to the army hospital. He has broken his ring finger and pinky, both badly. The attending physician also points out to James’s parents that his middle finger was broken, but seems to have healed itself, if badly.
In February, the Sparrows and the Donners take a day trip together to ski in the nearby mountains. James, goaded by Roger, eschews the snowplow method of slow skiing he has just learned, and free-runs straight down the mountain. James’s mother wrenches her ankle early on, and sits aside watching for most of the day. She is covered with bruises, but she bruises easily.
In March, James and Rog go with their father on a fishing trip to
In April, the two families take a
joint trip to
The ruins of
In May, Betty Donner tearfully informs James’s mother, her best friend, that she has been having an affair with James’s father since August of the previous year. James’s father has tossed her aside for yet another mistress, and Betty is seeking revenge and forgiveness.
In June, James’s mother takes her
children, and as much as a spouse’s weight allowance will carry, and moves to